Showing posts with label internet dangers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label internet dangers. Show all posts

Monday, December 5, 2011

Forget Jamaica or Hawaii: Want a Destination for Fun – Try Facebook

In 2006, the Pew Research Institute conducted a study and found that 45% of internet users only go online because it’s fun. Five years later, that number has gone up to 53%. Just for fun. Think about that. How many times does one connect to the net to check who liked their status or which celebrity tweeted what? Samantha Murphy (2011) comments that we use the Internet as a “diversion” or because want to have fun. This may be especially true this week, of all weeks, simply because it is when college students are bombarded with the most stress.

I don’t know about the rest of you, but this is my last week before finals week (hell week). I couldn’t be more excited. As I sit here, writing this final blog, all I can think about is December 17th—school is done and the Internet is at my disposal. I am not dictated anymore to what I look up or when I do what. Basically, I am saying that I douse the Internet as a source of entertainment, as I am sure you all do as well. We have to feel a degree of motivation to go online, and if fun is it, then that it is.

As we have discussed all semester, technology is great! The benefits added to our lives thanks to this gadget or that gizmo cannot be duplicated. However, as I demonstrated above, we are now using technology to escape the world around us. We are looking for any reason to login and procrastinate. For instance, when attempting to write a paper, I gave myself ten minutes of Facebook for one paragraph. Users of technology will find ways to enjoy their time online, even if the reasons did not exist previously.

Technology is changing the way we live. Fifteen years ago, I was in the middle of 1st grade and all my assignments were Xeroxed and my toys were a Lite Brite or Etch-N-Sketch. The burdens of simple life have vanished. But I ask now, sincerely, were they that burdensome? Did anyone truly ever feel pain because their Etch-N-Sketch didn’t draw the line as intended? No. Can Facebook make someone want to commit suicide? Yes. Megan Meier is one perfect example of someone looking for fun online and losing everything because of it.

The Internet is the future. But we cannot forget the past in the process. In 2006, only five years ago, 45% of Internet users were online because it was fun. Now, that number has jumped 8%. Our stressful lives have allowed the Internet to become a safe haven, but we forget how dangerous the World Wide Web can be. If given a choice, I would take a Lite Brite every time.

Well, that's all. From the World of My Head to your computer screen, thanks for reading and commenting. Enjoy the rest of your college years and good luck on finals.

Monday, August 29, 2011

I'm Looking For Love (On All The Wrong Websites)


Brad Paisley once sang “Cause I grow another foot and I lose a bunch of weight…every time I log in.” LinkIn Paisley’s hit Online, he is referencing the new-age tradition of online dating. We’ve all seen the commercials for eHarmony, Match.com, Cupid.com, or the countless other dating service websites out there. One would expect that, in a world revolving around Web 2.0 technologies, online dating could possibly become more sophisticated.

Sadly, this is not the case. Andrea Bartz and Breana Ehlrich (2011) recently put together an article on why online dating sites do not work for certain individuals. They mention the importance of impressions and how crucial the first message to the person is. Together, Bartz and Ehlrich (2011) compile a list of introductions that are not exactly going to work.

1. The Generalizer

2. The Autobiographer

3. The Eccentric

4. The Robot

5. The Creeper

6. The Gusher

7. The Wordless Wonder

Bartz and Ehlrich make a vital observation. We are in a world where, although we all strive against it, we do not differentiate between interpersonal and technological communication. I would never walk to up to a woman (whom I am attracted to) and sprout out, “Oh my god! You are so gorgeous! You are like the most gorgeous woman I have ever seen. If I had to choose between you and Jessica Alba, I would choose you hands-down. I am not kidding. So gorgeous.” Two results may occur form this scenario: First, the woman could slap me across the face and stomp off from embarrassment; second, the woman could kick me and stomp off in embarrassment. We know what not to do in person, but these skills are not following us into the virtual world.

How do we survive online dating? Datingsite suggests playing it cool, calm, and keeping everything COLLECTED. Dating is not meant to be stressful, and yet we are so concerned with “What if she doesn’t match her picture,” we often forget everything else. What is it about this online world that turns our intellectual minds to mush? We need to watch out for dangers on the internet, and these dangers are especially relevant in online dating. As Paisley said, he changes his appearance online.

Bartz and Ehlrich (2011) make a claim that online dating can be unsuccessful for some because of their communication online, while Datingsite is all about tips to date online. With the growth in new new media, online dating can only become more popular (it’s inevitable). With popularity come members, and an increase in dangers. Only time will tell what may happen next in the world of online dating.


References

Bartz, A., and B. Ehlrich. (2011, August 24). Online dating? Why no one wants you. Netiquette. Retrieved from http://www.cnn.com.

Datingsite. (2011, April 13). A guide to online dating sites. Australian Dating Sites. Retrieved from http://www.datingsites.com.au/a-guide-to-online-dating-sites.